So Finally, the “Empowered Woman of the Week” Empowerment blogs are back since Covid and my writing break. I am so excited to be starting this again with incredible women, and I thought there was no better woman to kick off the New Year and begin than with Dr. Magdalena Stevens!
I met Magdalena in 2009 in quite an unconventional way through a mutual friend. I never imagined how important this woman would be and how great of a friend and supporter she would be in my life. Magdalena is not only my Dr. but knows all of my past health issues, knows my life, my ex’s, my anxieties, literally everything. She knows more of my personal information than some of my very best friends. There is nothing I’ve kept off-limits from her, and she’s always been a caring, kind, supportive friend and healthcare provider. She is now in Urgent Care, so I see her less, but nevertheless, I still try to see her in there when I have an issue or need blood tests checking my under active thyroid or blood sugar. Haha. Through the years, she has been there for me in so many ways, with health, giving me dating or career advice, spiritual advice, the whole nine. I even called her once while she was working in urgent care when I was in Poland because I was in a bad situation (or so I thought). Ha, and she stepped away to translate for me—what a friend!
Magdalena is one of the most intelligent, most driven women I’ve ever met. I met her when she was in med school years ago and always admired her work ethic. Dr. Stevens is beautiful, bright, kind, and cares for people, and wants the best for them. She is a mother of a beautiful and brilliant autistic daughter and has just finished a thrilling and entertaining book with her husband called “Lost in Beirut.” She is truly a woman of many talents. So before I blab her life story for her, here she is!
1.Tell me your full name, age, and where you’re from.
Magdalena Stevens, 41, originally from Poland
2. Tell me a little about your upbringing? What were you like as a young girl and teenager?
I grew up in a small town located at the foot of the Bieszczady Mountains in Poland. My dad is an architect and a very artistic guy with a huge love of nature, so my childhood was full of art, hiking, mushroom picking in the forest, skiing, sailing, horseback riding, etc. I
was also very close to my grandpa, an architect, and had an incredible
love for books. His house was filled with book cabinets stacked with rare editions of classics. He would often take me to the countryside and teach me about nature, history, music, and drawing. He’d sing and read to me for hours. I rarely would watch TV.
My mom left for the US when I was just 6, so my dad and grandpa were very influential people in my upbringing. I was an honor student with many interests, from art and poetry to participating in regional biology and science competitions. I kept myself busy. I was (
and still am) quite introverted but was blessed to attract some fantastic friends on my journey who were accepting of my weirdness, haha.
“So here I am. A board-certified physician and a partner in one of the largest medical groups in California.”
3. What did you want to be when you grew up initially? Did you ever think you wouldbe where you are today? What made you want to become what you are today?
When I was a little girl, I wanted to be a vet. I was obsessed with animals. I changed my mind after seeing a vet assisting my aunt’s cow during birth lol. Then, I was stuck between architecture/fine arts and medicine for years. I felt quite torn trying to decide what to do in my life. I even ended up in a prestigious Illinois Institute of Technology architecture program before ultimately deciding to become a doctor. When I was at IIT, it just did not feel right. Back then, working as a bartender on the weekends to support myself, I ran into one of my friends in the nightclub I was working at. He is now an orthopedic surgeon. I remember him saying, “Architecture? What a waste! You’d
be such a great doc! What are you doing with your life?” After that night, I called my grandpa ( the architect), and he told me to follow my
heart. Within a week, I transferred to the University of Illinois at Chicago and registered to later graduate with B.A in Art History, while getting all my pre-med prerequisite courses on the side in a local community college. I was not a typical medical school applicant, but these crazy life experiences made me stand out in the application process. So here I am. A board-certified physician and a partner in one of the largest medical groups in California. I have been a doctor for almost ten years now.
4. When did you move to Los Angeles, and how come?
I moved for good in 2013 after my internship in Chicago. I moved because of my husband who is from here and wants to live in beautiful California.
“It was unexpected, but I embraced it. Modeling teaches you how to grow a thick skin, and I am sure you’d agree.”
5. How did you get started doing what you’re doing, and how did you become successful? What does success mean to you?
My journey took quite a few unexpected turns. I came to the US when I was 18, and within a couple of months, by a miracle of a chance, I was discovered by Elite Models agency in Chicago. This lead me to several years of working as a fashion model. I lived in NYC, Paris and then LA. I walked on the runway for D&G, Alberta Ferretti, Paco Rabanne,
Balmain, to name a few and appeared in numerous magazines and ads. It was unexpected, but I embraced it. Modeling teaches you how to grow a thick skin, and I am sure you’d agree. It’s not all glamour like people see it from the outside. There’s a lot of shadiness in this business. You have to learn how to navigate and sift through all
the bulsh*t. But I loved the artistic aspect of modeling and met so many interesting people who, to this day, are my closest friends.
I don’t define success as some point reached on our journey. I think success is more like climbing multiple mountains, a series of little goals that keep growing and changing with you. If I perceived success as a single goal, I’d never achieved 99% of the things I
did. Resting on laurels is the opposite of success to me. You have to keep becoming a better version of yourself and never stop growing.
6. Tell me about your business and the projects you’re currently working on?
In 2019 my husband and I started writing our first book. It’s a true story about my husband’s and his best friend’s time in Beirut, Lebanon. They went there in 2006 to organize 50 cent concert. What seemed like a fun adventure turned into horror as the country tipped into war overnight, and they got stuck in Lebanon fighting for their lives.
It’s a spiritual journey, a love story, and a story of survival. Within a few months of us starting to write, covid happened, so it was very challenging to continue. I was working as a doctor on the front lines, but we kept at it, at times writing even in the car. We started a publishing company last year and did everything independently instead of signing a deal with a publishing house. With this book, we wanted to keep full rights, including movie rights. It’s been such a magical and cathartic journey, and I loved the process of being in charge of copyright, hiring editors, designers and having complete artistic freedom and control of our project. We got lucky with some of the best editors, including Heather Sangster, who is an exclusive editor for Margaret Atwood, and Britt Collins, who is an international bestselling author and award-winning editor as well. I felt so honored when
they agreed to work with us. We also had the pleasure of collaborating with an incredible cover designer, Xavier Comas from Coverkitchen, who captured so eloquently the juxtaposition of this unbelievable story. Lost in Beirut just published 12/19/21, and we are super excited to see where this journey takes us.
“I don’t define success as some point reached on our journey. I think success is more like climbing multiple mountains, a series of little goals that keep growing and changing with you.”
7. What is your most outstanding achievement thus far, and what or who inspires you?
My daughter. At almost two years of age, she was diagnosed with autism, and we spent years and thousands of hours in various therapies. Now, you almost can’t even tell she is neurodiverse. She is in a regular 2nd grade now and doing fantastic. Her view of the
world and sparkly personality give meaning to my life. She inspires me every day to do everything with love. She’s truly a magical being, and I’m proud to be her mom.
“So embrace it, believe in yourself, and know you’re capable beyond measure.”
8. For people who want to build or grow their business or brand, what advice would you give?
Start and keep going. Don’t give up. There will be times when it will be challenging, but those times are there to show you how much you want it.
9. What career and life advice would you give young girls who look up to you?
It’s ok to make mistakes and to search for yourself. Everything you do shapes you. Even ending up on the wrong path is a part of your journey. So embrace it, believe in yourself, and know you’re capable beyond measure. Refuse to take “no” for an answer because there’s always “a way.” Don’t allow toxicity into your life. If someone or something makes you feel bad, cut it out. You don’t need to carry the weight of negativity. It’s counter productive and will slow
you down.
“Life is more of a series of small goals that ultimately make you feel fulfilled.”
10. What are you most looking forward to in the future?
Currently, looking forward to where our book Lost in Beirut will take us. I also hope to travel more with my family soon. I try not to look too much into the future. I love living in the now and enjoying every day as it comes. I think part of me has an issue with commitments, so planning too much into the future drives me nuts, lol.
11. What is your ultimate life goal?
I don’t aspire to someone definite thing. I have been blessed in my life with so much. I don’t see one ultimate goal. Life is more of a series of small goals that ultimately make you feel fulfilled.
12. What are things people assume about you that aren’t true?
That I’m mean based on my looks, or the shock on their faces when I say I’m a doctor. At work, at least once a day, I will
walk into the room, introduce myself as a doctor, only to be asked by the patient, “when is the doctor coming?” It always makes me half laugh! Our society is still full of stereotypes.
“I will always advocate for education. Knowledge is power.”
13. What is something most people don’t know about you?
I’m very introverted, but because I’m talkative, I fool people into thinking the opposite, haha. I love being alone and social situations truly drain me.
14. Why do you think women’s empowerment is so important?
Because we should all support one another. I despise cattiness, competition, and gossip. Collective empowerment is how we get our voices heard. I also believe the future is made with female energy.
15. What would you say your best qualities are?
I’m very persistent.
16. How can women support each other more?
Get rid of your internal misogyny and embrace your feminine energy. We are powerful. Once we believe in ourselves, we can then transfer this light to others.
17. How can women feel more confident?
I will always advocate for education. Knowledge is power. There’s nothing more repulsive than a beauty without brains. Relying on looks is short-lived, but no one can take away from you what you learn.
18. How do you overcome insecurities? How can others overcome their insecurities?
Focus on your best qualities and dig deeper into these. Self-care, especially with mental health, is also so important. When you feel loved by yourself the way you are, no matter what anyone else says, you know you’re a worthy human being. It’s important not to let
others cloud your judgment. I think insecurities, almost always, come from other people casting a shadow on you. Get rid of those and seek light and then be light.
“The most empowering experience for me was motherhood because, as a mother of a daughter, I tried to answer these exact questions for her.”
19. What are the things in life you value the most?
Love, family, health, knowledge.
20. What does it mean to you to be an “empowered woman”? How did you becomeempowered?
Empowerment means self-awareness. You know and believe in yourself fully. This comes from a deep knowledge of yourself and self-love. The most empowering experience for me was motherhood because, as a mother of a daughter, I tried to answer these exact questions for her.
Thank you so much Madalena for this interview! You always have inspired me in so many ways.
To check out Magdalena’s book she discussed, (which is amazing, I’m almost done with it) visit the link below. It’s a fantastic read, exciting, hard to put down and an easy read at that. I really do recommend this book. It’s called “Lost in Beirut” and available on Amazon, Kindel, and Apple Books.
This week in my “Empowered Woman of the Week” column, I chose Erika Shaefer. Erika is a beautiful, sweet, hard-working luxury real estate agent in Beverly Hills. You may also recognize Erika from Bravo’s “Million Dollar Listing Los Angeles” TV show. Erika works for one of the most prestigious real estate companies in all of LA, and her boss is major inspiration and boss babe as well, Tracy Tutor.
Erika has always excelled in what she does from what I know of her. Erika went in just a short time, from assisting to her current role, which many would try, but few would accomplish to the extent Erika has. I remember back when she was killing it out in LA doing celebrity tv hosting. What a cool job! Erika always seems so natural at anything she does, as if she was born to be doing it. We learn from her, that behind all the success of one, is a lot of hard work and tenacity. I loved Erika’s interview because she is so authentic, which is hard to find in LA, and she goes into detail about her journey and what one must do to become successful. Erika has traveled to many amazing places throughout her work.
I chose Erika because again, she has always seemed like a woman who works hard for what she has, and she is super ambitious. She loves to travel like me, and she loves animals and also works for an animal rescue. She loves helping others and is such a selfless person who constantly sees the best in people. She also seems to be such a supporter of females. She’s a sweet girl and I’m so excited for you all to read more about Erika, the true definition of beauty and brains!
“Success to me has many meanings. It really depends on what aspect of life you’re talking about. Truly enjoying your job is success. Being surrounded by your loved ones and making memories is success. Helping others is success. As long as you feel fulfilled and whole that is success.”
1. Tell me your full name, age, and where you’re from.
Erika Schaefer, 33. I grew up in Georgia from the time I was 10 then we moved to Arizona.
2. Tell me a little about your upbringing? What were you like as a young girl and teenager?
I had a very idyllic upbringing. I grew up in Georgia surrounded by kids and outdoor activities. I was such a ham growing up, a very big and sassy personality. I was a girly girl through and through- loved makeup, getting my nails done, dressing up, putting on performances for my family pretty much anything that involved me being the center of attention.
“I was very outgoing in high school. I had friends in all different groups and was extremely social. I’ve always loved people and fed off their energy.”
We were a very close knit family who spent a lot of quality time together- attending church, vacationing, family game and movie nights. My parents instilled confidence, self-respect, and ambition in me at a very early age. There wasn’t anything I didn’t think I could do. I was very outgoing in high school. I had friends in all different group and was extremely social. I’ve always loved people and fed off their energy.
3. What did you want to originally be when you grew up? Did you ever think you would be where you are today? What made you want to become what you are today?
I changed my mind weekly when it came to what I wanted to be. I initially wanted to be a talk show host. I watched Regis and Kathy Lee with my mom religiously growing up. I loved how they were two best friends just hanging out and talking about everyday things. It seemed like such a fun job to me. I would take my yellow, red and blue Sony player with my microphone and would interview my brother, and all our friends. My mom still has the tapes to prove it.
After seeing Olivia Newton John in Grease, I became interested in acting. I must have watched that movie 100 times as a kid. I knew every song by heart and nearly memorized the entire script of the movie
Ironically, Once I moved to LA I started acting and later hosting for entertainment shows. In hindsight hosting and being in front of the camera prepared me for my career in real estate. It gave me the ability to connect and find common ground with clients.
4. When did you move to Los Angeles and how come?
A year after attending college at ASU I convinced my parents to let me move to Los Angeles. I was 19 didn’t know a single person, and just wanted to try something new. I’ve always been adventurous and unphased by change. We loaded up the car and the rest is history. I’ve been here 14 years now.
5. How did you get started doing what you’re doing and how did you really start to become successful? What does success mean to you?
Growing up my parents owned a construction company. In the summer my dad would give my brother and I odd jobs to do around the job sites. Watching him was so fascinating…he would start with a raw piece of land and his vision would come to life. At the time, I didn’t think I wanted to be in that field but it always peaked my interest.
“ I was so focused and motivated. My success came from being persistent, dedicated, and determined. Often, we believe success happens overnight but it’s usually a long and arduous process. ”
In my late 20’s I decided to get into real estate because it seemed like a natural fit. I liked the idea that I was my own employer, there wasn’t a cap on my income and every day was different. I finished the classes and exam in 3 months, interviewed with one of the top producing female agents in Beverly Hills and was working for her shortly after. It was such a privilege to be working under such an esteemed agent who inspired me by her work ethic. I was eager to learn and tried to soak up as much as possible.
After working there for 2 years as an assistant, I interviewed with Tracy Tutor who mentored me. She was patient and encouraging. I worked incredibly hard- didn’t take vacations, was available around the clock, brought my computer with me everywhere in case something work related popped up. I was so focused and motivated. My success came from being persistent, dedicated, and determined. Often, we believe success happens overnight but it’s usually a long and arduous process.
Success to me has many meanings. It really depends on what aspect of life you’re talking about. Truly enjoying your job is success. Being surrounded by your loved ones and making memories is success. Helping others is success. As long as you feel fulfilled and whole that is success.
6. Tell me about your business and the projects you’re currently working on?
I’m a luxury real estate agent in Los Angeles. I assist mostly with buyers who are looking to purchase. It’s a very exciting and competitive business but I love it. When your clients find “the perfect house” it’s so rewarding.
I am currently on Bravo’s Million Dollar Listing Los Angeles. It has been a great experience. It’s been invaluable TO me as it has afforded me the opportunity to network and travel to amazing countries, tour some of the most incredible properties in the world, and get my name out there.
At the moment, our team is working on a huge project in Malibu. We launched the first property of a $500M portfolio consisting of 13 ultra-luxury and architecturally significant homes.
“My mom is my biggest fan and inspires me daily. She helps me maintain my positive attitude and is always reminding me of all my talents and abilities.”
7. What is your greatest achievement thus far, and what or who inspires you?
Breaking into the highly competitive field of luxury real estate and realizing how much I have accomplished in the last 5 years is truly humbling. I could work my way up from an assistant to an agent with one of the top producing teams in the US. Being a part of the Million Dollar Listing crew is just icing on the cake!
My mom is my biggest fan and inspires me daily. She helps me maintain my positive attitude and is always reminding me of all my talents and abilities. She never lets me quit. She is an eternal optimist and lifts my spirits no matter my circumstances.
8. For people who want to build or grow their business or brand, what advice would you give?
Creating good content is key but also being consistent, purposeful and authentic. Connecting with those around you and making sure that your contacts/followers knows exactly what you and your brand represent. Never be afraid to put yourself out there and ask for help. It’s not a sign of weakness.
9. What career and life advice would you give young girls who look up to you?
Don’t be discouraged if you haven’t found your calling yet. It took me multiple career shifts to find my way. I believe that everything in my life has lead me to where I am today. It wasn’t until the age of 28 that I made the decision to go into real estate. At 31 is when I discovered my passion for dog rescue after my dog of 11 years passed away. Embrace the constant change and growth that you’re experiencing.
“My whole outlook on life changed when I began volunteering and getting involved in my community. I felt a different kind of happiness that’s hard for me to articulate.”
10. What are you most looking forward to in the future?
I’m looking forward to meeting a good man that I have a strong connection with. Who respects and appreciates me. I’ve had a life full of adventure, excitement and wonderful experiences. I’d like to share that with someone. I’ll continue my career in real estate and hopefully open a dog rescue. Who says a girl can’t have it all?
11. What is your ultimate life goal?
To help others. I think you feel true happiness when you’re of service to those in need. My whole outlook on life changed when I began volunteering and getting involved in my community. I felt a different kind of happiness that’s hard for me to articulate.
12. What are things that people assume about you, that aren’t true?
Oh gosh, who knows. I used to be easily offended and take criticism to heart, but I’ve learned that if you’re true to yourself other people’s judgment won’t matter. Know who you are and what you stand for.
13. What’s something most people don’t know about you?
I’m half Cuban. My mom came to the states when she was 6. Growing up we were surrounded by the culture. It’s something I’m very proud of.
“We need to empower the next generation of women to speak their truth and let their voices be heard. ”
14. Why do you think women empowerment is so important?
There have been unrealistic expectations and cultural norms placed upon women for centuries. We are finally being encouraged to reach our full potential. We need to empower the next generation of women to speak their truth and let their voices be heard.
15. What would you say your best qualities are?
I’m an encourager who tends to see the best in everything.
16. How can women support each other more?
If we all showed compassion and understanding towards one another there would be less preconceived notions and competition. When woman feel that you’re rooting for them and truly care, walls come down and real friendships are made.
17. How can women feel more confident?
Confidence is something that builds overtime. It’s a muscle you must constantly exercise. When negative thoughts and self-doubt sneak into your mind you must shut them down! Speak kindly to yourself. Affirm to yourself that you are enough.
18. How do you overcome insecurities? How can others overcome their insecurities?
I pray. When I feel as though I’m not enough I take a minute to connect with my creator. I consider all I’ve accomplished workwise and personally. There is so much comparison in front of our faces daily with social media, television, the beauty industry -it’s only natural to feel insecure. Don’t feel shame in it yet recognize it and talk yourself through it. What triggered me to feel this? Get to the root of the problem.
“I became empowered when I saw how resilient I was during challenging times. I never gave up, I just kept pushing through. ”
19. What are the things in life you value the most?
Human connection is so important. The core people in my life mean everything to me.
20. What does it mean to you, to be an “empowered woman”? How did you become empowered?
Empowerment is a state of mind. An empowered woman is confident, knows who she is, what she wants, and even in fear will go out and achieve it. She takes authority over her own life and chooses what is best for HER. I became empowered when I saw how resilient I was during challenging times. I never gave up, I just kept pushing through.
This week in our “Empowered Woman of the Week” column, I chose a real boss babe, Christine Devine. Christine is the weeknight anchor at Fox 11 News. She has won 16 Emmy’s, including the Governor’s Award. She has won numerous other reporting awards such as Golden Mikes, as well as charitable awards, including The Gracie Allen Awards, and the Anna Quindlen Award for Community Service, and many more. Christine has worked at Fox 11 in LA since 1990! She is a graduate of the Walter Cronkite School of Journalism and Mass Communication at Arizona State University.
I chose Christine because not only does she excel at her job, but when she is not busy with her work schedule, she is constantly giving back to her community and to her planet. Christine is dedicated to so many charity organizations. She even created “Wednesday’s Child”, An adoption TV segment that has helped place the adoptions of over 500 foster children. In 2009, Christine received The Congressional Award in Washington DC for her efforts in helping these foster children find homes. Christine also wrote a book called “Wednesday’s Child”: Find a Forever Family, A News Anchor’s Notebook.
Christine also was part of a non profit organization called The Good News foundation which was founded by five LA news anchors/reporters wanting to honor the good in Los Angeles.
When not at the Fox 11 studios, a public speaking event, or at a charity event, she may be on the big screen. Christine has appeared as a reporter in TV shows such as Melrose Place, Prison Break, 90210, as well as films, such as Independence Day and The Cable Guy.
If you check Christine’s social media platforms you will see just how dedicated she is to causes and charity organizations. She is always supporting others, which to me is the very definition of an “empowered woman” and a real “boss babe” AND an all out amazing human being. She is so selfless, and she discusses below just how important it is to be there for others and do for others. Christine loves to travel and loves her family so much. She also loves fashion and her wardrobe, which I can tell. Every time I see Christine, she is always immaculately dressed and on trend. Christine is such a lovely person and I was so happy when she agreed to do this interview. In this generation, it is still good to see such a wonderful role model to young women! Now, I don’t want to spill too much, so have a read and enjoy!
1.Tell me your full name, age, and where you’re from.
Christine Devine – Born in upstate NY. Grew up in Arizona.
2. Tell me a little about your upbringing? What were you like as a young girl and teenager?
I was born to a single mother and have not met my birth father in Brazil. When my mom married, she and my (step) father had a girl. So I have a sister. They adopted a boy(who has since died), and later fostered refugee children from Vietnam. As my parents were both educators we were very involved with school and activities. We tried many things, but mastered none. As Arizona kids, swim team was big. In high school it was student government and cheerleading.
3.What did you want to originally be when you grew up? Did you ever think you would be where you are today? What made you want to become what you are today?
I had wanted to be a teacher, but then got the idea of being a reporter. I took a broadcasting class in high school and doors continued to open from there.
NO, I did not envision this (Los Angeles). I had wanted to be a home-town anchor in Phoenix!
4.When did you move to Los Angeles and how come?
I moved to Los Angeles in 1990 to be a weekend anchor. Within a year-and-a-half the weekday slot opened up. I credit my agent who believed in me more.
5.How did you get started doing what you’re doing and how did you really start to become successful? What does success mean to you?
My start was the internships for me, that allowed me to make a reel. That reel got me my first job out of college. I went to San Angelo, Texas to be weekend anchor, but by the time I arrived after graduation, the weekday slot had opened up. I started in this small market as the weeknight anchor. My second job brought me back home to Arizona, to Tucson. That was exciting as my family could watch. I was working in Los Angeles at the age of 24.
“Success to me, means being financially stable, with a fulfilling career, opportunities to tell the stories of my choices, surrounded by loved ones.”
Success to me means being financially stable, with a fulfilling career, opportunities to tell the stories of my choices, surrounded by loved ones.
“ In the future, I’m looking forward to 2020 which marks 25 years of our Wednesday’s Child adoption segment. ”
6.Tell me about your business/career and the projects you’re currently working on?
My job is a weeknight anchor (5/10pm news) and host of the Wednesday’s Child adoption segment on Fox 11 News.
“To stay successful also find time to rejuvenate.”
7. What is your greatest achievement thus far?
My greatest achievement: getting married (it took awhile!)
On a career note: High School Valedictorian, Emmy Governor’s Award, Golden Mike Lifetime Achievement, 25 years of Wednesday’s Child resulting in more than 500 adoptions.
8. For people who want to build or grow their business or brand, what advice would you give?
To build any business, plan to work very long hours.
9. What career and life advice would you give young girls who look up to you?
As for career advice, anyone wanting to work in news should look into journalism classes in high school. In college, I say you need to major in Broadcast Journalism, so that you can master the equipment and the news business itself. Find a university (like Arizona State) that actually has a student newscast. To stay successful also find time to rejuvenate.
10. What are you most looking forward to in the future?
In the future, I’m looking forward to 2020 which marks 25 years of our Wednesday’s Child adoption segment. Beyond career, I’m looking forward to traveling, as I’ve not done much of that. I’m also looking forward to watching my niece grow up!
11. What is your ultimate life goal?
My ultimate life goal is to contribute to the betterment of mankind.
12. What are things that people assume about you, that aren’t true?
I’m not sure what people assume of me. Perhaps the biggest question I get is about my ethnicity. My mother is American of European descent and my birth father is from Brazil.
13. What is something most people don’t know about you?
What don’t people know? People may be surprised to see a family photo. We are all like The United Nations, given the foster and adoptive children.
14. Why do you think women empowerment is so important?
I think PEOPLE empowerment is important! But when it comes to women, there are issues of equality that continue to surface, even in MY workplace. Women empowerment means supporting women in the workforce, and as mothers, girlfriends, and wives.
“Women empowerment means supporting women in the workforce, and as mothers, girlfriends, and wives.”
15. What would you say your best qualities are?
My best quality is my willingness to constantly be a student of life.
16. How can women support each other more?
Women can support each other by remembering that different doors are going to open for one another. Support someone in their journey, as their journey and outcome will be uniquely different to your journey, opportunities, and gifts.
17. How can women feel more confident?
Women can feel more confident by being a continuous student, with the understanding that there will always be life lessons to learn. So, just DO YOUR BEST!
“ Most importantly, get out of the “SELF” and do something for someone else.”
18. How do you overcome insecurities? How can others overcome their insecurities?
To overcome insecurities, keep chipping away at them. Take a class, get a mentor, read a biography, join an organization, find quality friends, spend time with family, exercise, eat healthy, learn to forgive yourself, and practice self-preservation. Most importantly, get out of the “SELF” and do something for someone else.
19. What are the things in life you value the most?
What do I value most…? My niece, my husband, my dogs… and my fashion/wardrobe.
20. What does it mean to you, to be an “empowered woman”? How did you become empowered?
Learn the power, and empowerment, of saying “NO.”
Thanks so much Christine for the interview. I know you are truly so busy. I appreciate you!
Hi Everyone! Thanks for reading another, “Empowered Woman of the Week” column. This week, is a very special friend, fellow travel addict, amazing personal trainer and fitness, and health influencer Ashleigh Lawrence! Ash and I met in London, in October of 2017. We hit it off instantly, because we both had traveled extensively, and both loved it. We had also been to almost the exact same amount of countries. We decided very spontaneously, to travel to Romania together, after only knowing one another about two weeks. It was so much fun though, and so much adventure. I’ve always felt with Ash, like we have been close friends forever. It’s so comfortable, and she was around during my divorce, when I was struggling a bit, and she always left a caring crying shoulder or ear for me. We have been to over 25 countries together now, which seems crazy. I love traveling with Ash, and having her as a friend, because she is one of the most optimistic people I’ve ever met. She is logical, and she is the most chilled, laid back person ever. There were so many times in our adventures, I would about lose my shit or totally lose my shit, and she would be the cool, calm, and collected one, getting us out of whatever mess we were in, or calming me of any panic I had. She is the rational one of us, and the one who gets shit done. I’m so lucky to have her for so many reasons. As I said, she kept me sane in so many difficult, annoying, upsetting, or scary times. She’s very intelligent also. She even won this insane reality show in South Africa, with her fitness and skills. I trust her in any situation. Ash is also an amazing personal trainer. She trains in Australia and has done so much great work with her clients. She really is skilled at not only teaching people the technical side, or the nutritional side, but she again, is such a pusher. She really wants you to be successful and wants you to kick ass. She is so encouraging. I’ve had her train me also, and she was great! She kicked my ass, but she was awesome, and I had one of the best workouts ever. I just don’t know a girl who takes on so much at once, and can still just stay so calm and encourage others to succeed, while also trying to succeed and be the best person and trainer she can be, not only for herself, but for her clients! I’ll let you read her interview to learn a bit more about this girl ,that has become one of my closest friends in only 2 years.
Tell me your full name, age, (if you want) and where you’re from.
Ashleigh Lawrence from the Gold Coast, Australia
Tell me a little about your upbringing? What were you like as a young girl and teenager?
I grew up on the Gold Coast, a beautiful beach city on the East Coast of Australia. I always loved being in front of the camera and enjoyed outdoor activities.
What did you want to originally be when you grew up? Did you ever think you would be where you are today? What made you want to become what you are today?
I really wanted to be a journalist, so Mum and Dad put me into acting school when I was about 9. I then fell in love with acting and performing, so I wanted to be an actress. I never would have imagined ending up being a personal trainer, as I was never really into fitness.
When did you move to Los Angeles and how come?
I moved to LA when I was 19 to pursue acting, unfortunately, my visa expired and so then I moved to London.
How did you get started doing what you’re doing and how did you really start to become successful? What does success mean to you?
After moving to London, I was still working as an actress and model. As you know, it’s a tough industry and I was working sometimes and then out of work other times. At the time, I was training in the gym almost every day and I used to train with guys who would tell me how strong I was. I never believed them, because they were lifting so much more weight than I was. They told me I should enter a powerlifting competition because my weights were really good for a female. I went home and googled it, and turns out I was lifting quite a lot for my weight category. So I started training for a powerlifting competition. Then I realised that I love being in the gym, and I wanted to start to help other women realise how strong they are too. So I studied to be a personal trainer. I kind of just fell into it and I have never looked back. Success for me is helping my clients change their lives for the better. When a client who has drunk a sugary soda drink for lunch every day for the last 20 years texts me and says “I didn’t have soda for lunch today”, that is success. When a client lifts their goal of a 100kg deadlift, that is a success. When a client tells me they are fitting into their old jeans, that makes me so happy. Or that they are back to their pre-baby body weight and feeling more confident than ever, that’s a successful feeling. I am currently working on a training program e-book so I can help more people around the world.
Tell me about your business and the projects you’re currently working on?
I have some really exciting things coming up, including my programming (as I mentioned previously), and also my own brand which I will keep under wraps until it is ready to launch.
For people who want to build or grow their business or brand, what advice would you give?
Have a clear sense of direction and what you want. Find a niche and then be the best in that field. For me, it is strength training for women that I am really passionate about, and I really work to research and learn as much as I can about this area so that I can be knowledgable and ahead of the game.
What career and life advice would you give young girls who look up to you?
You don’t need to know exactly what you want to do straight away. It took me so long to figure it out, and I’m still figuring it out day by day. When I left school, I actually went to university and studied accounting – and now I’m a personal trainer. Life happens in strange ways. Just go with the flow and enjoy it as much as you can.
What are you most looking forward to in the future?
At the moment I am taking life as it comes and I am super excited to see what the future holds, as life seems to change so rapidly and you never know what will happen next.
What is your ultimate life goal?
I would love to eventually open up my own boutique gym.
What are things that people assume about you, that aren’t true?
I never really took the time to consider what other people think about me. I hope it is all good, but I don’t really care.
What is something most people don’t know about you?
I had a goal to travel to 30 countries by the time I turned 30. I have now bypassed that goal and I’m up to 69. I would really love to travel to every country one day. Another thing that people don’t know is that I can speak Spanish.
Why do you think women empowerment is so important?
It’s 2019. Beyonce said it right – “Who run the world? Girls.” Let’s start acting like it.
What would you say your best qualities are?
I am a good listener and problem solver. I take into account all of the possible scenarios when making decisions.
How can women support each other more?
Women should support each other more and not hate so much. I don’t understand why some people feel the need to be mean. We should feel happy for each other rather than jealous! If another girl is successful, that means that we are all moving forward together.
When I was living in London, we started a brunch club. It was running every month, and you could invite any girls you wanted to. If you just met someone out last week, you could bring them along. It started with only a few girls and then grew and grew. What a great way to meet people, network and expand your circle with more supportive, strong women.
How can women feel more confident?
First of all, unfollow any instagram pages that are making you feel bad about yourself. A lot of pages heavily photoshop their photos, sometimes changing the physiques to a point which is unachievable in real life. I don’t have a problem with people photoshopping their pics, but I do have a problem with people who do that and then make out like they look that way because they go to the gym and eat healthily. Then young girls are seeing these posts on instagram of out of proportion small waists and curvy hips and then wondering why they can’t look like that too. Stop comparing yourself to anyone else and start focusing on yourself. Focus on the things that you love and the positive aspects about yourself. If you can’t think of any, ask your family or your friends, I’m sure they will be quick to point out a million amazing and unique characteristics about you and reasons they couldn’t live without you!
How do you overcome insecurities? How can others overcome their insecurities?
Don’t overthink things too much. Focus on the positives instead of the negatives.
What are the things in life you value the most?
My health is number one. I think too many people take this for granted, myself included sometimes. You only have one body, so look after it! Without your health, you can’t do all the other amazing incredible things that you value in life. You wouldn’t be able to work and earn money to do things that you enjoy. Sometimes you need to listen to your body take a little time out. If you are sick, have a rest day. One or two days off work and/or training might mean that you recover quickly, if you push yourself too hard you may end up being more sick for weeks. If you have injured your back, it’s okay to take some time off lifting weights so that you don’t further injure it. You may only need to take one week off, instead of further injuring yourself and having to take six months off.
What does it mean to you, to be an “empowered woman”? How did you become empowered?
An empowered woman is all about being confident, badass and strong. I think not caring what anyone else thinks about you helps with feeling empowered, but also being sure in yourself and your decisions. Back yourself.
Thanks so much for the interview my Lovely! Everyone follow Ash’s accounts below! Ash has her personal account and then a cool account just for her travel photography.
Hello everyone! This week’s “Empowered Woman of the Week”, is Jen Walker. Jen is a woman from Ohio, who reached out to me via social media, to tell me of her support of my project. Jen also shared with me a little about her life and her projects. I knew upon learning about Jen’s brave fight for sight that she was someone I needed to speak with for “One Model Mission”. Jen is a mother, wife, teacher, and someone that has been slowly losing her eyesight since her early adolescence. I read Jen’s story and started to cry. I think every day we have these small luxuries that we can use. Things that we take advantage of. A few things being our senses, our health, and ability to do normal daily tasks. Jen doesn’t have that luxury with her eyesight. Jen cannot drive, she falls, she can’t see her daughter’s complete faces, yet she still stays more grateful and positive than many people I know. Jen not only teaches schooling, but in her free time, she organizes charity events and works with her fellow vision impaired. Jen also supports many charities for the blind and the vision impaired. She also supports a charity giving people in need, seeing eye dogs. Jen is currently waiting on her seeing eye dog. Jen is in her early 30’s yet she uses a cane. Many women, including myself, would feel insecure doing so, however Jen has accepted it and no she doesn’t think twice about it. She doesn’t let her eyesight compromise her life and her passions. It was so refreshing to hear from someone that is so selfless and sweet, even with her condition. I don’t want to give too much away, so here is Jen Walker! Enjoy her story of determination and positivity!
Tell me your full name, age, and where you’re from.
My name is Jen Walker, and I am from Columbus, Ohio. I’m a born and raised Ohioan! I have
lived in Toledo, Cleveland, and now Columbus.
“At age 14, I was diagnosed with a degenerative retina disease, Retinitis Pigmentosa. At age 28, I became legally blind due to my lack of peripheral vision.”
2. Tell me a little about your upbringing? What were you like as a young girl and teenager?
I had a wonderful upbringing. I grew up in Avon Lake, Ohio. Our town was small and
quaint and located right on Lake Erie. As a young girl and teenager, I was often
apprehensive of doing anything in the evening or during the night. I felt I couldn’t see
very well in this setting. Come to find out, this was the first sign of Retinitis Pigmentosa.
3. What did you want to originally be when you grew up? Did you ever think you would be
where you are today? What made you want to become what you are today?
I always dreamed of being a teacher! I have been a teacher for 11 years, and just
recently decided to move into a small group teaching setting due to my vision loss.
4. When did you move to Los Angeles and how come?
n/a
5. How did you get started doing what you’re doing and how did you really start to
become successful? What does success mean to you?
At age 14 I was diagnosed with a degenerative retina disease, Retinitis Pigmentosa. At
age 28 I became legally blind due to my lack of peripheral vision. By 30 I was using a
white cane and had turned in my driver’s license. I will continue to lose more peripheral
vision as time goes on. Because of this, I became involved with the Foundation Fighting
Blindness. This foundation raises money for scientific research, cures and treatments of
degenerative retina diseases like RP, Stargarts Disease, Leber’s Congenital Amaurosis,
and Age-Related Macular Degeneration and more. This is a national foundation, but my
husband and I run the Columbus Chapter. Together with a group of other Columbus
residents affected by vision loss, we plan and host events.
“My goal is to get even more Columbus businesses to support the locally blind/visually impaired community.”
6. Tell me about your business and the projects you’re currently working on?
For the Foundation Fighting Blindness Columbus Chapter, we are working on our annual
Swing for Sight golf outing, where on some holes, the golfer is blindfolded! Our biggest
event is our annual Dining in the Dark. We sell tickets for dinner, but it’s not your
average dinner. Diners are expected to wear blindfolds for their entire meal. Those of us
with visual impairments will give tips and offer advice. The diners then experience what
it’s like to have a meal without sight. Often people say the background noise impedes
any social interaction with other friends, Also, some noted the frustration in finding the
food on their plate and the isolation that comes with being blind. After dinner, patrons
can take off their blindfolds and participate in our silent auction, dance on the dance
floor, and even pet a guide dog puppy-in-training!
My goal is to get even more Columbus businesses to support the local blind/visually
impaired community.
“Some days, when I first lost a good amount of vision, it was hard to get up and move on.”
7. What is your greatest achievement thus far, and what or who inspires you?
Sometimes, your greatest achievement can be just getting out of bed. Some days, when
I first lost a good amount of vision, it was hard to get up and move on. But, I realized I
needed to keep going. With a supportive family, a therapist, and a strong church and
faith…I have gotten out of bed every day.
Another accomplishment I feel I’ve had is connecting to others with vision loss. So often
people are diagnosed with these horrible diseases that offer no cure or treatment. It is
essential for those to connect with others in the same position and that have “sight” on
the future, and how it can be wonderful, even without vision. This often entails helping
others find services for the blind, through their state government programs, learning
how to advocate at one’s workplace, and getting tools like Orientation and Mobility
training.
8. For people who want to build or grow their business or brand, what advice would you
give?
I would say with non-profits, don’t be afraid to try something new and exciting! Take
risks!
9. What career and life advice would you give young girls who look up to you?
Much of my reason for working through my trial is my faith. I have learned to not have
idolatry in thinking, “If I just had this…or just had that…life would be perfect.” You have
to find peace in whatever trial or circumstances you have been dealt. A cure or a
treatment or a different outcome may not be what God has planned for some of us. So,
try to find out how you can use your situation to inspire others or make yourself an even
better person.
10. What are you most looking forward to in the future?
Receiving my guide dog from Guiding Eyes for the Blind!
11. What is your ultimate life goal?
Showing my two daughters that I could find the resources and tools needed to
overcome my disability, no matter how hard it was.
“Never assume a person with a white cane or guide dog has zero vision.”
12. What are things that people assume about you, that aren’t true?
People usually think “blind” means that you see black. Blindness is actually a broad
spectrum. People with visual impairments see the world in many ways. Some struggle
to read print, see faces, and notice details. Some, like me, notice detail in the center of
our vision, yet have no peripheral vision. So, you may see a person who is blind using
their phone or reading. Never assume a person with a white cane or guide dog has zero
vision.
This is a photo showing how my eye sight looks…..
13. What is something most people don’t know about you?
Many say, “You get around so well!” But they can’t see my emotions on the inside.
Every step I take is full of anxiety of if I will trip or run into someone. I cover up my fear
very well, almost too well!
14. Why do you think women empowerment is so important?
Women offer a different perspective. We may notice things differently, and see things
in a different light. The more perspectives, the better!
“The older I got, the more I realized that other people aren’t focused on me. I was so concerned about how I looked with my cane, when really, no one cared.”
15. What would you say your best qualities are?
I try not to sweat the small stuff…I’m just happy if I get a ride to the grocery store!
16. How can women support each other more?
Check on your friends! If they seem quiet or angry, it may be an underlying issue you
don’t even know about.
17. How can women feel more confident?
Helping others, and worrying less about yourself . Sometimes we focus too much on
ourselves and forget to reach out to those less fortunate.
18. How do you overcome insecurities? How can others overcome their insecurities?
For me, I hated (and still kind of hate) using my white cane. It’s a glaring sign that says
“I’M DIFFERENT”. The older I got, the more I realized that other people aren’t focused on
me. I was so concerned about how I looked with my cane, when really, no one cared.
Everyone else has their own life, and some of my insecurities were projected by what I
thought was happening…not what was reality.
19. What are the things in life you value the most?
PEACE, in all things. I learned a lot about peace from getting deeper into my faith I
distinctively remember having an anxiety attack at night thinking through how I would
raise my girls without being able to drive. My mind wandered and wandered. Then, I fell
to my knees and said out loud, “God, I am trusting in you that you’ll provide whatever I
need to raise my girls.” Since then, I have been at peace without a license.
20. What does it mean to you, to be an “empowered woman”? How did you become
empowered?
I became empowered thanks to all the kindness from other men and women that
offered rides, words of encouragement, prayers, and helped me grow as a person.
Thanks so much Jen for your share and interview. I can’t imagine losing my sight slowly. A basic sense that many of us take for granted! Best of luck with everything! XOXO
Below is Jen’s Instagram as well as two charities she supports! Check her out!
This weeks “Empowered Woman of the week”, is a woman I met about four years ago, at a really tough time in my life. Aila and I worked together and became friends. I found her sweet and nurturing attitude, pull me in like gravity. When I met Aila, I felt this sense of trust and peace, as if she had been my friend for years or in another life. I opened up to her about all the things going wrong in my life, things I couldn’t even tell my closest friends. I looked to her for advice and direction. I was so happy I had met a woman who I just knew in my gut I could trust.
She listened to all my problems and worries without judgement, and offered peace and advice where she could. She told me to trust my intuition and follow the direction it was telling me. I’m so glad I took that advice, even if it was a slow progression, it changed my life. I later learned that Aila was a healer which made total sense to me as to why she could listen so well, and why she could touch my shoulders and massage them only for a few minutes and really almost take away the stress and bad energy. I find her so inspiring because she’s so authentic. She truly cares about people and wants to help them anyway she can.
Aila left her communist country at age 9 for a better life. Her family and her left Cuba on a small boat to go to Jamaica. This was incredibly dangerous, but they were dreamers and desperate for a chance at the life they always dreamed of. When Aila told me this story, I knew she was a dreamer, and a fighter. I knew she had courage and strength. I was inspired by her in so many ways. We are close to the same age but I still look up to her immensely. Aila and her lovely boyfriend Jonathan have started a business called “The Love Gurus” in Los Angeles. They are a real life couple, helping others to love themselves, create conscious relationships, and live a positive and joyful life. They do all kinds of workshops that could be so beneficial to so many, not just couples, but people looking for a higher consciousness and more ways to practice self love. I’ll let you read the rest, and see why Aila is such a beautiful soul inside and out!
Tell me your full name, age, and where you’re from.
Aila Rose, 33. I was born in Cuba and moved to Miami when I was 10.
My family and I fled Cuba on my father’s fishing boat when I was only 9 years old. No one told me where we were going until we were halfway to Jamaica. They had been planning this in secrecy for months and they couldn’t risk getting caught because everyone involved would’ve gotten thrown into jail for god knows how long. The rest of the trip was dreamy, like a beautiful vacation. We were cruising through the middle of the Caribbean, surrounded by crystal clear water, schools of colorful fish and coral reefs. Everyone was happy. Their excitement and sense of freedom was palpable. As the sun began to set over the horizon, we could see city lights in the distance. We were almost there.
My mom and dad went to the front of the boat to watch the sunset. It was a picturesque moment, the kind you might see on a postcard. The evening air was calm and serene. The very next moment the boat shook. My brother had unknowingly steered us right into a coral reef. A huge hole ripped open the side of the boat and we began sinking. Without hesitating, my dad jumped into the dark ocean in search of help.
I sat next to my mom watching the water pour in faster by the minute as the tide continued to rise. When the water reached the top bunk, where we were all gathered, my dad magically appeared with a small canoe. He brought my mom, the two other children that had come with us and myself back to shore. I remember laying back on the cold sand, completely numb, looking up at the full moon and listening to my dad rowing in the distance. It felt like a dream. Our trip to freedom almost cost us our lives.
As it turns out, our boat sank right in front of a 5-star resort called “Half Moon Bay” in Montego Bay. The resort restored the boat and it remains on their property, to this day, as a tribute to the people around the world who risk their lives for the dream of freedom.
That’s my mom and two cousins next to the boat on the picture. The plaque reads: “Fifteen refugees – eleven men, two women and two children sailing from Cuba in this boat made landfall here on March 8, 1996. Some settled in Jamaica and the others were accepted by the United States of America. Their boat has been restored and will be maintained on this site as a tribute to all of those anywhere in the world who risk their lives for the dream of freedom.” Their plaque is slightly inaccurate. There were actually 10 of us. Three children, three women and four men.
We are all lucky to have survived. We made our way to Miami with the help of some friends in Jamaica, about four months later.
“This photo is of my mother and cousins.”
2. Tell me a little about your upbringing? What were you like as a young girl and teenager?
I grew up in a small fishing town in Cuba. There was hardly ever electricity so I spent most of my time playing in nature, climbing trees, and running around freely with the other children in our neighborhood. I was always involved in something creative, from dancing to singing, putting on plays, and doing radio shows. That changed when we moved to Miami. I became very shy, since I didn’t know english, and was bullied over it. This experience drove me to excel in academics. I went on to graduate at the top of my class in both High School and University.
“Honestly, there is no better feeling than spreading consciousness and helping people navigate through difficult situations.”
3. What did you want to originally be when you grew up? Did you ever think you would be where you are today? What made you want to become what you are today?
My dream as a child was to be an actor. In Cuba, they played American movies every Sunday and the whole family would gather together in one room and watch them. It was everyone’s time to dream. We got a glimpse of other worlds we weren’t allowed to visit or even talk about. I grew up wanting to bring that feeling to other people, the feeling of hope.
I never thought I’d become a spiritual healer, it just happened naturally. In a lot of ways, acting prepared me for the healing journey. Through acting classes, plays, and comedy training I was able to break out of my comfort zone and discover a deeper understanding of who I really was. It felt so liberating. So hopeful. My life was now reaching far beyond my acting career and childhood ambitions.
Eventually, I recognized that the feeling I really loved was that of connection. Being connected to myself, nature, friends and family. I wanted to help everyone experience the same freedom. To help them find out who they really are and what they connect with. Honestly, there is no better feeling than spreading consciousness and helping people navigate through difficult situations.
I still end up in front of the camera but in a way that educates, empowers, and enlightens anyone who watches. It’s all around my real-life experience. It is less about acting and more about being.
4. When did you move to Los Angeles and how come?
I moved to Los Angeles when I was 25 after finishing a television shoot in San Francisco. I still remember driving down Fountain Ave in the middle of traffic. The weather was perfect. The sun was shining down and I had this calm sense that I belonged here, so I never left. All I had was my suitcase and a dream.
“Success to me is nothing more than allowing myself to be in the moment. To truly ride the wave and be authentic to my feelings.”
5. How did you get started doing what you’re doing and how did you really start to become successful? What does success mean to you?
Healing comes naturally to me. I’ve always seen and felt energy around me. For as long as I can remember, people have opened up to me about their struggles. Even complete strangers would tell me their life story. In those moments I always know exactly what to say. It feels like the right words, movements, and advice comes through me. This grew as I began meditating and deepening my spiritual practice. Eventually, I stopped pursuing my acting career and decided this was my path. When I did that the doors swung wide open. I knew, beyond a doubt, that I had made the right choice.
Success to me is nothing more than allowing myself to be in the moment. To truly ride the wave and be authentic to my feelings. Success in business is when I see the lightbulb turn on in a client’s eye. That moment when they realize where their blocks have been and the transformational power they wield over their own lives.
6. Tell me about your business and the projects you’re currently working on?
I opened The Love Gurus alongside my boyfriend to help people love themselves and have more conscious relationships. We developed a unique method of healing called Bridging™that helps our clients “bridge” the gap between the mind and body, the conscious and subconscious, the earthly and the divine. It is a very powerful way to teach the path to enlightenment.
We also developed a Goddess Workshop that empowers women through their sexuality. I teach women about their bodies, how to get rid of stored trauma, how to experience more pleasure and attract what they really want into their lives. Helping women dissolve all the shame and guilt around their sexuality and self-worth is one of the most amazing things I have ever been a part of.
“Don’t worry so much about the competition, because if you believe in what you’re doing you will attract the right clients to you.”
7. What is your greatest achievement thus far, and what or who inspires you?
My greatest achievement is opening up our company The Love Gurus. It was truly one of the most difficult and most exciting things I’ve ever done. It’s been scary at times, not knowing where our next paycheck was going to come from, but somehow the money always showed up. It was a leap of faith and worth every second of it.
I am very inspired by Dr. Joe Dispenza and Dr. Bruce Lipton. Their discoveries on the brain and subconsciouss behaviors helped us understand our healing method from a more scientific perspective.
8. For people who want to build or grow their business or brand, what advice would you give?
The most important thing is to develop your own voice and opinions. There is a lot of fluff out there but when you develop good content people notice and they respond. Instagram and Facebook have been amazing vehicles to get our business out there and connect with like-minded individuals. Don’t worry so much about the competition, because if you believe in what you’re doing you will attract the right clients to you.
“So when I pursued healing full-time and all the doors magically opened in a way that never happened with acting. ”
9. What career and life advice would you give young girls who look up to you?
Do something you love but be aware of how that’s unfolding in your life. It was interesting because, for me, I loved everything about acting. I loved the feeling I got when I performed, I loved going to class and learning about how humans behaved, and I loved studying it – but when it came to the business side of acting, it completely disempowered me. I despised the auditioning process and the self-promoting aspect. I felt like I wasn’t contributing anything to the world and this slowly ate away at me.
I eventually realized that what I loved the most about acting was the connection I felt when working with other actors, the process of developing characters and learning from different scenes. Beyond acting, I noticed what really inspired me and fed my soul was helping people. So when I pursued healing full-time and all the doors magically opened in a way that never happened with acting.
10. What are you most looking forward to in the future?
I’m really looking forward to creating retreats for singles and couples. I believe that creating conscious relationships is so important, especially when bringing children into this world. A child born out of a fully conscious love can truly change the world.
11. What is your ultimate life goal?
I want to develop an easy way to teach consciousness and introduce this into the school system.
12. What are things that people assume about you, that aren’t true?
I don’t know. I’m sure people have opinions and assume things about me, but I’ve learned not concern myself with all of that. Whoever spends time with me sees the true me. I focus on showing up fully in those moments and being genuine and authentic.
13. What is something most people don’t know about you?
I don’t do well in very large crowds. I feel everyone’s energy, so it’s overwhelming for me. I feel the most at peace in nature or in an intimate group of people.
“Imagine a woman without these mental and societal limitations and the wonders she can accomplish. It’s happening now and it’s amazing to watch it unfold.”
14. Why do you think women empowerment is so important?
Women are incredible creatures. Society has attacked our self-worth for centuries now, shaming our bodies and our self-worth. We have been resilient in silence, still protecting those around us, regardless of the consequences we suffer. Imagine a woman without these mental and societal limitations and the wonders she can accomplish. It’s happening now and it’s amazing to watch it unfold.
15. What would you say your best qualities are?
I’m a really good listener and relentless at getting to the bottom of the truth.
16. How can women support each other more?
Women need to realize that we are not each other’s competition. Our only competition is ourself and our mind. Our inability to see our worth is destroying our future and all of our possibilities. When we encourage one another in our goals and visions, and give constructive criticism instead of insulting or putting each other down, we all thrive.
17. How can women feel more confident?
Discover what makes you unique, what makes you feel good in your body and what makes you feel good in your heart. Follow that. The moment you stop hiding and stand in your truth, not only will you shine but you’ll inspire others to do the same.
“Rewiring your brain is simple, but it’s not easy, and it requires practice and determination. ”
18. How do you overcome insecurities? How can others overcome their insecurities?
The best way to overcome bad habits is by creating new and empowered ones. Rewiring your brain is simple, but it’s not easy, and it requires practice and determination. Practice self-love when you find that you are speaking down to yourself. Catch yourself in those moments and change the dialogue in your head. Slowly, you train your brain to be more positive.
19. What are the things in life you value the most?
Honesty, Vulnerability, and Kindness.
20. What does it mean to you, to be an “empowered woman”? How did you become empowered? If there is anything else you want to add then go ahead!
I became empowered the moment I stopped asking the world for permission to be me. I realized that no one was going to give me the validation I was looking for, because even if I heard it, I wouldn’t have believed it. It needed to come from within. Empowerment began the day I decided to love myself and didn’t settle for the things that didn’t serve me.
“Empowerment began the day I decided to love myself and didn’t settle for the things that didn’t serve me. ”
Wow! How amazing are you? Thanks Aila so much for the chat!
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6. Tell me about your business and the projects you’re currently working on?
